For Coffee Time Wednesday...
A funny, humorous article by dlmjourney
You opening this article to read this topic means that you are really interested in trying to co-exist with your Asian or "strict" parents. Why this sudden interest? That I can only guess. Maybe you've had enough of their rules and you're claiming your independence. At this point, you're ready to pack up your bags and move to other side of the country. Well... that's easier said than done. It's not smart to do and more than likely, you'll come crawling back soon (like less than 5 days soon.)
In reality, this decision to run away is very unrealistic for many reasons. For one, if you're coming from a traditional Asian or strict family, your family honors being smart, loyal, and respectful. Running away for any given situation is a dishonorable, not only to your family, but to yourself. And two, you're simply not ready to take on added responsibilities. If you're still under your parents' house, it's probably because you're not able to move out physically, mentally, and more importantly... financially. Since running away is highly discouraged and frowned upon (SO DON'T DO IT), what do you do? Well... you coexist with them!
This rule to coexist with Asian or strict parents is really quite simple: you follow their rules forever. How do I know this? I am a 24 year old woman who still lives under my loving, Asian-Filipino parents' house. I have a decent paying job as a nurse, I pay for my own car, and yet... I still have a 9:00pm curfew. Do I get tired and weary of having to follow the rules? Of course! There are times when I want to pull my hair out because my mother is constantly riding my back about anything. Though I hate the fact that I have to follow the rules, there are a lot of perks to coexisting in the same house.
Why should you live with your Asian Parents?
- You have a curfew (a 9:00pm curfew)
- You will need straight As to make them happy
- You will have chores (extra-chores)
- You will have to go to school regardless of whether you like it or not. [ This ensures a bright future :) ]
- They don't let you touch anything in the house.
- You will never be hungry
- You will always have bathroom necessities
- You will always have birthday and Christmas gifts
- You will always have clothes
- You will have a room (rent-free)
- Your house will always be clean
- You will be attending great family parties (more gifts for you!)
- They will make sure you have a great future [ You will have to go to school regardless of whether you like it or not :( ]
When you move out, especially on bad-terms, you are claiming that you are ready to be an adult. You're ready to take on the responsibilities of paying bills, getting and making your own food, cleaning your house, doing your taxes, etc. When you move out, it's better to have your family's blessing. You would want that process to be memorable and exciting. Trust me when I tell you, you'll know when the time is right for you to fly away from the nest.
But remember that family is important.
Your parents only want what is best for you. Like any other family, we bicker and we fight... but in the end of the day, we love each other. Everybody else comes and goes, but your parents will always be there for you. Though I get tired of the rules and regulations of the household, I love living with my parents because they have taught me things that make up who I am today.
But let me tell you, I can't wait to get my own place and make up my own rules. :)
Love you Mama and Papa!